One of the most common problems from parents is that they can’t get their children to do their homework.
Some use the hard approach – they shout, they cane, they screame. Others prefer the soft approach and continue to use it till they have no choice but to change their approach to the hard ones.
Well, getting children to do their homework (willingly) can be really tough.
You are probably trying too hard to get your child to move even an inch.
Let’s take a step backward and explore the various reasons that are stopping these children to be self-motivated.
There’s always a push and pull factor.
A push factor may be taking away his web surfing rights or removing other privileges.
A pull factor can be if the questions are answered correctly, the quantity will drop. And seriously, children prefer adults to use more pull factors than to exert their adult authority on them and take away their mobile phones, their laptops and so on.
Not forgetting that your 12-year-old child is already a teenager or soon to be a teenager and there’s many other changes going on such as testing his boundary and finding his identity.
So, I would like to propose something which has worked for us very well and probably, it is something that is out of most parents’ comfort zone.
Are you ready?
Fill in the blank,
Give 2 ______ a day
a. Stacks of top school papers
If you say the answer is (c), you are right. The other two methods may work but we really prefer method c.
For our students, we always start off with giving them only 2 questions a day. Most parents, upon hearing this, will immediately say “Only 2?”
Starting off with two get the child to be on the same side as us. Check this sms from one of our parents.
Yes, the mom was so surprised when her child started doing his homework without her shouting at him to do it.
Yes, this is what we are aiming for – a complete shift in the child’s attitude so that he becomes more eager to do his homework.
It is only after he has been consistently completing two questions a day for a month, then we can move on to 3 or 5 questions a day.
The difference now is that the child will ask for more, he will do them willingly and he becomes much more motivated to do them, without anyone telling him to.
Self-propelled motivation is the KEY to helping a child improve in math and sustaining the growth.
In the next and final post, we will be sharing the MOST POWERFUL SECRET WEAPON WE USE to help a child shoot for the stars.
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